Gratitude and The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is the name given to the belief that "like attracts like" and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, you can bring about positive or negative results.

Many hope that saying positive affirmations for long enough will change negative beliefs into positive ones, and their goals and dreams will manifest.

That can work to a point. Unfortunately, affirmations often don’t work, and it can be frustrating.  When we only try the affirmation route to attract good things, we only access the conscious mind. The problem is that the subconscious mind runs 95% of our lives.

To attract what we want, we have to address the underlying beliefs we hold in the subconscious 

If the affirmations you are religiously stating every day are not working, it's more than possible your subconscious doesn't believe them and will sabotage any positive effects.

Say, for example, you want to make an extra $50,000 a year in your business or career. You have been religiously saying these affirmations for six months, and nothing has seemed to shift in your life, and you are not attracting this added income. Some examples of what your subconscious might believe are:

“I don’t deserve that extra $50,000; my parents never made that much, and we never had much money; who am I to think I could make that much more? To make that much, I might be working more hours; I'll be too tired to do anything else. I'll be in a higher tax bracket, and I won't see any payoff for the extra hard work. 

You could sabotage a great relationship because you don’t believe you are worthy of someone who loves and cares for you that much. Perhaps you witnessed your parents' negative relationship; they divorced, and you vowed you would never let that happen in your life. Therefore, unconsciously, you sabotage any relationship that may threaten the vow you made when you were young, even though another part of you wants a good and lasting relationship.

As you can see, our limiting and negative beliefs will sabotage our goals if we don't address them. We can't just tell them to shut up because often they were learned because of trauma, and that part of you does not want to get hurt again or be unsafe. The only way I know how to help is to heal the root cause of the hurt or trauma and the beliefs learned at the time. That's my job: getting people free to choose their future rather than being stuck in the past.

We are complex individuals, and each of us has a unique history. Our subconscious beliefs were set at a very young age. We imprint our parents and even our ancestors' beliefs. We learn beliefs about ourselves in relationship to those who are most important to our survival: our nuclear family. We also make vows and can gain a negative opinion of ourselves through experiences we had at school.  You might have had a bully tormenting you or a teacher who made fun of you. You made a life decision every time there was this kind of trauma. Some deal with these things well and have loving and supportive people who can help them work through these traumas. Often, these experiences are stuffed down and not talked about; we take on shame and guilt for who we are. These beliefs don’t go away unless the trauma is healed and new beliefs learned.

EFT and Matrix Reimprinting can Help Change Negative Beliefs

All is not lost, though. If you have negative subconscious beliefs, we now have epigenetic techniques and therapies such as EFT and Matrix Reimprinting that can help you change them. We can change these subconscious beliefs about ourselves and what is possible at the cellular and subconscious levels. 

Gratitude

Another simple yet powerful way to shift from negative energy to a more positive outlook is to write a daily gratitude list. Make a habit of thinking about everything you could be grateful for. You can say them out loud if that helps. 

Write a list of all that works in your relationships and work situations, even if it isn’t your ideal job or relationship. Seeing the positive can compel you and attract a better, more meaningful job or relationship. 

What your mind is constantly thinking about is what it will attract. When you think about what is not working, you attract it, negatively affecting your well-being. If you think about what is working in your life, you will attract more of the same.

An example to say or write:

“I am grateful that I have this full-time job to provide for my family’s needs and put something into savings.” Even if this is not the best job for you now, doing this will attract more positive energy, people, and possibilities for a better job with better pay.

"I am grateful to be learning this subject; even though it's incredibly stressful, I will have my degree soon, and it will all be worth it."

You might be having a difficult time right now, without a job or home, staying with friends, or sleeping on the couch. Your gratitude list could be:

"I am grateful I have friends who let me stay with them, a roof over my head, and people who care about me. I am thankful to have a place to stay while searching for my new job and living arrangement."

Now, this does not mean that you don’t put action into the mix here, but you should do everything you can to move forward and reach your goals and intentions for your life. Feeling and expressing gratitude is a powerful component of achieving your goals. Practicing gratitude is a valuable tool that helps you achieve your dreams by activating the law of attraction.

If you need support, help, or guidance to change negative beliefs that stop you from achieving your goals, I'm happy to jump on a complimentary 20-minute consultation. Quite often it is hard to feel gratitude if you have unresolved trauma and grief. It is possible to heal.  Click this Book a Call link to set up a time to chat. I'd love to help you free yourself from anything stopping you from experiencing freedom and attracting good things into your life.

Love,